The Nice Indian Guy

Recently I had the chance of watching the trailer of the movie The Nice Indian Guy. An Indian family with a boy who is gay.

From watched it looked what I'd except from an Indian origin/Indian family who is living in USA, but still has most of the values of a conservative Indian family.

The movie is exactly what an Indian Gay Boy dreams of having. May be not just Indian but every gay boy and man has this same dream. a man to hug and melt into his arms. A persons to his home, love, comfort and a lot more. So coming to the movie, the difference in culture was very much visible when the family scenes and was portrayed very aptly. The characters are apt and gives the non Indian viewers glimpse of what goes on in a Indian household. 

But mind you. this is a family who is living in USA. Very different from a one living in India. I'm not sure the way that family is acting it'd be same if they were in India. As society works in a different manner here in India rather than USA. yes understandably the stigma is same but Asian society is way different than the Western . 

The other point of concern that the Indian Parents have no matter living in India or USA that their child Boy or Girl will fall in love with a "GORRA or GORRI" (translation a white man or a white woman). You want to marry someone of Indian decent but not sure if our parents will accept them....Shock them with a GORRA/GORRI first they will say YES the moment they the Indian decent person later. 

But the dream of most Gay Boys here in India who can afford to go and settle in a foreign nation is due to the stigma that THEIR PARENTS have to deal with if they find love here. Most don't want to burden their parents so either chose letting that pat of life go or keeping it a secret. Very few find the courage to make it public and then max in this category face being shunned by their families. A handful go abroad try and settle their with all the homesickness and racism and then whatsoever strength they have left after work. they try to date (which isn't a well accepted concept here in India and basically many haven't dated before). The culture Difference with the Accent Difference and along with these A FOREIGN lonely LAND. Just to find love and live peacefully.  But is it worth it.

Yes it is. 

Yes it is when your parents don't have to answer on your behalf

Yes it is when society doesn't grill them on your life choices, they only ask "Beta bahar videsh me hai na kaha pe hai konse desh aur state me" (Your son is living in different nation? Which country and state he lives in?) this also every 6 months in the starting 2 years then they don't even ask. Leave their friends and neighbours, your very own relatives don't ask about you, the difficulties you or your parents are facing, and more importantly about your life choices. 

So even if you Marry someone. Your Parents don't get grilled by anyone. Everyone just assumes that they raised you properly and you were a good boy till you were in India, "Bas bahar jake bigad gaya hai, waha behak gaya hai." (He got spoiled after he went their) 

So yeah the Movie is able to capture all this very nicely. The difference in culture, the difference in race, their disappointment that their son is gay and now all their relatives will know, and will ask them questions......

It's The Indian Way.......