LOVE, TRUST AND CHEATING.....

                         

How do you handle the feeling of being left out in a relationship that once made you feel bliss.

The feeling of Happiness and of being seen and being enough. Yes there are couples that from the very start or by means of communications with each other tend to go for an open relationship but How does it feels when your better-half or Your partner is in arms of other person and having intimate relations with them. Then coming home to you behaving like everything is fine. 

I don't think that the way you found out, like from other people or you yourself stumble on them or their messages is going to sooth the pain and heartbreak that one feels, as our world just got shattered.

But I think, those who come clean before having an intimate relationship with someone outside their relation are a bit merciful. Atleast they had the courage to breakup/divorce the other person with some truth remaining to the prior relationship, they left some dignity in it. Even tho it broke someone emotionally, its still going to ache but a little less than fining them having a sexual relationship.

The pain is more if the the person they cheated with is someone you trusted. That the two people you loved/cared about thought it would be ok to break you so much and then continue on their filthy play.

I also realize from reading and also observing people and couples around me that those who cheat rarely find happiness and settle down and maybe they deserve that but in learning that they destroy so many lives.

They break TRUST.....

They break the capability of the other person to LOVE anyone else....

And they make them believe that they are replaceable till the next better thing comes along. Which is so FALSE.

Some people say that at times its their partner who pushes them away hence they seek comfort in others. But my point is, is Cheating that easy that you choose not to breakup with someone and then move on, with someone else. It's like having your cake and eating it too, then blaming it on the other person. Even tho you were tired and fed of your relationship you snooping around other persons genitalia makes you the bad person. And the other a Saint. 

So my take from all this DRAMA is, it's fine if you fell out of Love, it's fine you like someone else, it's fine, you want to be happy, BUT so does the other person, at least give the other person time and dignity to leave before you decide to humiliate them to the very core. As it'll all come back to you sooner or later it will come back to bite you. And by the time you realize how it feels to be cheated on, to be Left, it'd be too Late to mend the mistakes....